Your friends see the version of him you describe when you're upset, and they see your face when you talk about him. That's a partial view, and it's also the only outside view you have. They're not always right — but you're the one with the most reason to be wrong.
It doesn't mean they're jealous. That's the first explanation the mind reaches for and it's almost never the true one.
Notice whether you've started editing what you tell them. Editing is the real signal, and it's about you, not him.
“(this one's a conversation with your friend, not him. ask what specifically worries them.)”
“(if you're already drafting a defence, that's the answer.)”
“i want you to meet my friends properly. it matters to me.”
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