Was It Casual
🫧 My own spiral

His likes and follows make me spiral

What it usually means

Social behaviour is the lowest-quality evidence about a relationship that exists, and it's the most available, which is a terrible combination. A like is a thumb movement. You are trying to read a relationship in the least informative data you have access to.

What it doesn't mean

Feeling it doesn't make you insecure or controlling. Acting on it as though it were evidence is where it goes wrong.

The one tell

Ask whether anything in how he treats you has changed. If the answer is no, the feeling is real and the conclusion isn't.

What you could send

Secure

“i've been a bit in my head about social media stuff. it's mine to manage but i wanted to say it out loud.”

Playful · Direct

“the algorithm is doing me no favours today”

“i felt weird about something i saw. can i just ask you about it directly?”

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