People integrate the things they intend to keep. Being kept entirely separate from someone's life after a real amount of time isn't shyness about you — it's a decision, conscious or not, to keep the two things unconnected.
Early on this is completely normal and means nothing. It only becomes information once enough time has passed that it would be strange.
Has he ever mentioned you to anyone? Not introduced — just mentioned. If nobody in his life knows your name, you're not in his life.
“i'd love to meet your people at some point — is that something you'd want?”
“beginning to suspect you've invented all your friends”
“i've noticed i'm completely separate from your life. is there a reason for that?”
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