The results
Mostly A’s — He meets you halfway. Shared effort, which is rarer than it should be. Stop auditing it and enjoy it. The only thing worth watching now is whether you feel more like yourself after you’ve seen him.
Mostly B’s — Effort on his terms only. He’ll show up, but only once you’ve made it frictionless. Ask for one specific thing, his side of town on Thursday, and watch what comes back. General requests get general answers.
Mostly C’s — You’re a late-night detour. You live in his night-time hours. Has he ever started something before 6pm that wasn’t logistics? If the honest answer is no, you already know where this sits in his week.
Mostly D’s — He keeps you off his map. Months of this and you’ve never been near his actual life. Has he ever mentioned you to anyone? Not introduced, just mentioned. If nobody knows your name, that’s a decision he made.