The results
Mostly A’s — Secure, and happy for you. A man who is fine when you have a life is not the bare minimum, whatever the internet says. Notice whether you come back from your friends feeling more like yourself, not less.
Mostly B’s — He makes you pay for it. The sulk is the message: have a life and pay for it. Have you ever brought something up with him and had it go fine? If raising things always costs you, that’s the real pattern.
Mostly C’s — He talks you out of it. He never forbids it, he just makes saying no to him feel expensive. Notice whether you say yes because you want to or because no feels dangerous. Only the second one is a problem.
Mostly D’s — He waits till you’re free. You exist in the gaps of his week, and contact lands right as you’re about to stop waiting. That rhythm is the tell. Offer one specific daytime plan and see if it survives.