The results
Mostly A’s — He actually showed up. He treated a date in your calendar like it mattered to him. That isn’t a grand gesture, it’s a man planning around you. Let it be simple — you don’t have to audit it for a catch.
Mostly B’s — Minimum, with a bow on it. He did the least that still counts as something and expected applause for it. The test: would you be impressed if a friend described this exact day to you? That’s the whole question.
Mostly C’s — A text and nothing else. A birthday text is attention that cost him nothing. Look back over the last month for one thing that cost him time or planning. If you can’t find one, you already have your answer.
Mostly D’s — He kept the day separate. Your birthday was happening in a life he hasn’t put you inside. Ask yourself whether anyone in his world even knew whose birthday it was — not met you, just knew.