The results
Mostly A’s — You asked for a real date. You asked for a specific thing, which is the only kind of ask that works. Now watch what he does with it — one concrete plan in the next fortnight is the entire answer.
Mostly B’s — You’ve called it low-key. Maybe you do love a night in. Test it anyway: would you be impressed if a friend described this exact arrangement to you? That question works every single time.
Mostly C’s — You’re matching his effort. Matching his effort is a message he may never read. Before you pull back again, name what you actually want. If it’s ‘I want him to notice’, say that instead.
Mostly D’s — You go, and say nothing. You’ve been saying yes to a version of this you didn’t choose. Ask for one specific thing — a Saturday, somewhere out. ‘More effort’ is unanswerable, a day isn’t.