The results
Mostly A’s — You tested the pace. Declining one small thing and watching is the whole test, and you ran it. Real enthusiasm adjusts to a no. Love bombing sulks, escalates, or finds a way to make you pay for it.
Mostly B’s — You vanished into it. Name three things you did regularly before him. How many have you done in the last fortnight? Put one of them back this week and notice what he does when you’re busy.
Mostly C’s — You couldn’t say no. Saying yes because no feels dangerous isn’t enthusiasm, it’s fear in a nice coat. Decline one small, low-stakes thing this week. You need that information more than he needs the yes.
Mostly D’s — You’re in it for the rush. You’re high on the speed rather than the person. Ask whether you enjoy him on a quiet Tuesday, or only enjoy how dramatic this feels when you describe it to someone.