Green flags are boring, which is why nobody posts about them. They look like: plans made without prompting, apologies that don't need extracting, your bad mood not being treated as an inconvenience, and him being the same person around his friends as he is with you.
Intensity isn't a green flag. Fast, enormous, overwhelming interest is a speed, and speed is not the same as depth.
The clearest one: after seeing him, do you feel more like yourself or less?
“i really like how easy this feels. just wanted to say it.”
“reporting a suspicious lack of red flags”
“this feels good and i want more of it. same page?”
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