This is one of the few things people say that means exactly what it says. It is not a negotiating position, a challenge, or a temporary condition you can wait out by being easy to be around. Believe it the first time and you'll save yourself six months.
It doesn't mean he'd be ready for someone better. It means he isn't offering what you want, now, and you can't earn it.
The only real question is whether you're willing to have exactly this, indefinitely, with no change. If no, it's already decided.
“thanks for being straight with me. i am looking for something serious, so i think i'll leave it here.”
“appreciate the honesty. incompatible, but civilly so”
“that's not what i want, so this isn't going to work for me. no hard feelings.”
The read above is the general one. Describe what actually happened and I will tell you whether this is the right page — and what the paid decode would do with your details.
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