Walking on eggshells means you've started pre-managing someone else's reaction as a full-time job. Sometimes that's an anxious pattern of yours running on a person who hasn't earned it. Sometimes it's an accurate read of someone whose reactions genuinely are unsafe. It matters enormously which one this is.
Don't dismiss it as 'just my anxiety' without checking. And don't diagnose him without checking either.
Have you ever brought something up and had it go fine? If yes, this may be your fear. If bringing things up has reliably cost you, that's not fear, that's learning — and it's worth talking to someone outside the relationship about.
“i want to be able to bring things up without it becoming a whole thing. can we work on that?”
“(this one isn't a joke. see the note below.)”
“i don't feel like i can say what i think around you, and i need that to change.”
The read above is the general one. Describe what actually happened and I will tell you whether this is the right page — and what the paid decode would do with your details.
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Was It Casual is for reflection, not therapy or professional advice.